It's the year 2020, the Twitterverse is stronger than ever, memes instead of aliens have taken over and Instagram is the new Indeed. I know the whole "new year, new me" speech is getting old, but a whole new decade is finally here. Are you ready for it? See, I don't know if anyone can ever be completely ready for something but at least we can prepare. So, to start off the decade, here are 10 ways to enter 2020 that *may* better prepare you for inevitable changes, lots of growth and to give you a fresh start.
1. Delete & Declutter
This one is crucial (speaking to myself here). Take a good look at your closet and if there is an overflow, do something about it. Let go of any clothes or items that are no longer being used or have value to you. Donate to your nearest thrift shop or to a local charity and get rid of things you no longer need. Not only is it important to declutter your living or working environments, but declutter your phone and other devices too. Delete anything that is no longer in use, whether it's photos, contacts, emails, messages, facebook friends, just DELETE THEM ALL. Stop taking up space and hoarding things that don't really hold much value. This includes your Instagram following. Hit the unfollow button and do not look back. Make new memories, welcome new things and try to keep your spaces/devices clean to ensure a clear and renewed mind.
2. Bet On Yourself
2019 was all about planting seeds so you can bear more fruit in 2020. But, you can't taste the fruits of your labour without betting on yourself first and taking chances on new opportunities. Put in the work and expand on those visions you keep sleeping on. We are all our biggest critics, but until you BOSS UP and stop underestimating what you bring to the table, you will continue to block your own blessings and miss out on many possibilities.
3. Shoot Your Shot
To my shy and introverted folks, I love you but we all need to break out of that shell eventually. Do not be afraid to pitch your idea, t0 ask for that raise or promote yourself or your brand. I'll forever live by the phrase, "closed mouths don't get fed". The truth is, we can not predict rejection but at least we can say we tried. Whether you want to start a new business venture, or simply take out that guy, girl or non-binary person, SHOOT YOUR SHOT! Please, at least for me.
4. Be More Receptive to Love
I know this one is hard to practice but we all deserve to experience love. Whether it's platonic, intimate, sexual, familial or from within, love comes in so many forms that aid our health and allow us to grow and become extraordinary people. Connection is so valuable to the human experience and it's the biggest way we learn about ourselves and the people around us. The common misconception is that we need to be in intimate committed relationships in order to experience love but that's not the case. Love can be found anywhere, and I encourage you to be more receptive to love when you feel it gravitating towards you. The best way to move forward is with love.
5. Be Clear With Your Boundaries
Boundaries are key. This year I want us to become more comfortable with vocalizing what does and doesn't feel safe or good for us. I think we often leave boundaries out of our relationships and that's why things become complicated. It's because we're not voicing how we want to be treated and setting boundaries are a great way to protect yourself and allow others to see you in the ways you want to be seen.
6. Take Your Health Seriously
Health is wealth baby, and making sure you're okay is important. Let's leave pretending and performing in 2019, okay? It won't always be easy, everyday will look different and that's okay. Be more honest about how you are feeling, take rests and remember not to overextend or overwork your body. Fuck that unrealistic and capitalist mentality of always having to work or hustle. Get your ass to sleep and be kind to yourself. Don't take your health for granted. Mental, emotional, and sexual health included. Regularly visit your doctor, show up for your appointments and tend to your needs. No one knows what you need more than yourself, so stop and listen when your body is talking to you.
7. Make Time to Heal
The most important thing I learned last year was to start being comfortable with unpacking my shit. There is a lot of things we experience on a day-to-day basis that get suppressed and swept under the rug. Eventually it builds up and the weights only get heavier. Be intentional about your healing journey and don't be afraid to lean on others for help, because every one needs someone. Being a part of a community is just as important as doing the work alone. Voice your experiences, find a safe outlet and practice healthier habits of expressing yourself in order to heal.
8. Affirm Yourself Daily
Easier said than done, but it is so important that you give yourself validation, acceptance and affirmations consistently. Make this a routine and it will make it HARDER for other people to try and lower your sense of self-worth. You are that bitch and it doesn't get any simpler than that. Think positive of yourself, believe in yourself and give yourself some more credit. Life will always have challenges but do not let those struggles define you and put your focus more on how you're going to overcome them.
9. Strengthen Your Relationships
You can not do everything alone and 2020 will be the year we all accept this truth. Relationships are important and hold a lot of value because they shape us, they push us and they comfort us. This is the year to welcome new healthier relationships and to strengthen the ones that already exist. Negative relationships will make a negative impact 0n your life, so be mindful of the people you are letting into your space and embrace the people you know you would not want to live without.
10. Have Fucking Fun With It
As much as this new decade has opened a lot of conversation around growth and change, I just needed to remind y'all that life is all about being present and making the best out of every moment. What's the point if you're not having fun? Smile more, love more, LIVE more and make sure you are making 2020 worthwhile.
This new decade can feel scary because we know change is on the way, but be open to that change. Let 2020 surprise you and try falling in love with life again. I wish you all an abundant and fruitful new year! 2020 is going to be an amazing journey and I'm excited to join you all on it.
With love always,
Learning How to Fly is a visual and written diary series dedicated to all things women and wellness. Through digital storytelling, Keosha shares her personal life experiences and how she navigates her own world and the people around her through the lens of a Black woman. Learning How to Fly reflects on identity, hardships, emotions, love and the lessons they unfold.